5 Tips for a Healthy and Thriving Sexual Relationship During COVID-19

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5 Tips for a Healthy and Thriving Sexual Relationship During COVID-19

雷切尔DACK
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如果您发现在你的关系或婚姻的性的性欲或频率最近减少,你远离孤独。很多人都经历lack of sexual desire由于COVID-19大流行的应力。事实上,很多我的客户提供不同的基准性驱动器的报告与他们的合作伙伴在性别和/或较不频繁的性接触更低的整体利益。

由于性欲有着巨大的心理因素吧,压力可以对驱动和欲望产生重大影响。常规中断,生活的重大变化,疲惫,和道德疲劳该冠状病毒爆发带来的日常生活留下很少的时间和精力为性。虽然它是有道理的性行为并不一定在你心中的第一件事就是用一切你身边发生的事情,知道你可以采取行动,以保持你的性生活健康在这充满挑战的时代

Here are five tips for maintaining a healthy and thriving sex life during times of stress:

1. Understand That Your Sex Drive and/or Frequency of Sex Will Naturally Vary

您的性感受能力是复杂的,它是由心理,激素,社会关系和文化因素的影响。您的性欲是受all sorts of things, including age, stress, mental health issues, relationship issues, medications, physical health, etc.

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的事情,包括压力种种,影响性欲。

接受你的性欲可能会有小鬼ortant so you don’t jump to conclusions and create more stress. Of course, if you are worried about a chronic health condition that may be causing a low libido, you should absolutely speak to a doctor. But generally speaking, your sex drive will not always be the same. If you get anxious about any changes or view them as permanent, you may make things feel worse.

Instead of over-analyzing, obsessing, or projecting, remind yourself that fluctuations are natural, and decreases in desire are oftencorrelated with stress。管理你的压力是非常有利的。

2.想认识你的合作伙伴,目的为肢体接触

Kissing, cuddling, and other signs of affection can be very relaxing and helpful to our bodies, especially during times of stress.

For example, a backrub or massage from your partner may help释放任何张力或应力and increase feelings of relaxation. Holding hands while watching TV can help you stay physically connected. These small gestures may also help set the mood for sex, but be careful about your expectations.

Instead enjoy other forms of physical intimacy and be open to these acts leading to something more. If you put too much pressure on physical touch leading to actual intercourse, you may be unintentionally creating another barrier.

3.沟通关于在直接和诚实性的途径

性别is often considered an uncomfortable topic even between couples in close relationships and marriages. In fact, many couples struggle to discuss their sex lives in open, productive ways because one or both partners feel embarrassed, ashamed or uncomfortable.

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Not being honest about your sexual needs will cause problems down the road.

Not being direct about your sexual needs, fears, and feelings often perpetuates a cycle of dissatisfaction and avoidance. That’s why it is essential to learn to feel comfortable expressing yourself and谈论性安全公开。当讨论任何性问题,需求和愿望(或缺乏),温柔和耐心对你的合作伙伴。如果你的焦虑或紧张程度降低你的性欲,说实话让你的伴侣不作假设或把你缺乏兴趣个人。

也,communicate about styles,preferences, fantasies, and sexual initiation to enhance your sexual relationship and ensure you are on the same page.

4. Don’t Wait to Feel Intense Desire to Take Action

If you are used to having a higher sex drive and you are waiting for it to come back full force before initiating anything sexual, you may want to change your approach. Because you can’t control your desire or sex drive, and you are bound to feel frustrated if you try, the healthier strategy may be initiating sex or responding to your partner’s advances even if you don’t feel completely turned on.

您可以通过你的兴奋程度,一旦你得到的东西去,尽管最初并不感觉好多愿望或动机在特别紧张的时候是性惊讶。奖励:你知不知道尝试新的活动可以一起增加兴奋感

5.认识你的欲望的缺乏,并优先考虑你的情感联系

Emotional intimacy带来更好的性爱,那么就专注于保持你的情感联系,无论活着的压力,你觉得是很重要的。

As stated above, it’s natural for your sex drive to fluctuate. Intense periods of stress or anxiety may affect your sex drive. These changes may cause you to question how you feel about your partner or stir up unpleasant emotions, potentially leaving you feeling more distant and less connected.

Determine whether your anxiety is related to the pandemic or to other factors.

It’s important to differentiate between relationship issues and external factors that may be contributing to your low sex drive. For example, is there an underlying issue in your relationship that needs to be addressed or is an outside stressor, such as financial instability due to COVID-19, interfering with desire? Reflect on your situation so you can understand what’s really going on.

要小心,不要责怪你的伴侣对你的性生活感觉离当然,如果你确定压力源之外的最大障碍。设法保持情感连接and intimate with your partner while you handle whatever is getting in the way sexually. This is essential because feeling emotionally disconnected can also get in the way of a healthy sex life.

Managing the stress in your lives so it doesn’t interfere with your sex life takes work. Discuss your fears and anxieties, support each other emotionally, continue to build trust, and spend quality time together.

做最好的自己留在感情上,身体上和性亲密的与你的伴侣

Again, it’s completely natural to experience highs and lows when it comes to sex. During anxiety-provoking times, you are allowed to feel off or not in the mood.

However, do your best to stay emotionally, physically, and sexually intimate with your partner and discuss anything that’s interfering with your connection. Practice patience in the meantime, and don’t jump to conclusions if it takes some time and effort to get back in the groove again.

注:本文是对夫妻谁一般有健康的性生活,但可能遇到的频率,驱动器的变化,或由于渴望外部压力源,如冠状病毒爆发为目标。

If you are experiencing long-standing sexual issues or dissatisfaction in your relationship or marriage, it is important to be proactive and寻求专业支持从有经验的性治疗师或伴侣治疗。