How Do You “Friend Zone” Someone? 5 Nice Ways

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你是如何“朋友区”有人?5种尼斯途径

Hunt Ethridge
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Many of us have been there. You’re hanging out with friends and making jokes, and one of the women in the group says something flirty to you. It seems like she’s making a play for you. Unfortunately, you don’t feel the same.

我们听到了很多关于朋友带当涉及到一个多情的人说话不感兴趣的女人,但相反的情况也是如此。

如果你在这种情况下,你希望brush-off to be gentle but direct. Here’s the correct way to do this:

1.使用合适的语言来帮助她理解你

While you don’t necessarily want or need to say, “I think of you like a sister,” there are other ways to use your words toget your point across

确保你用的是“朋友”了很多。不要说:“你真是一个伟大的女人”,说,“你是这样一个伟大的朋友!”当我们迷恋的人,任何事情我们听到作为标志得到我们兴奋的是可以解释。

Make sure your words are unambiguous. Don’t say, “It’s so much fun to hang out with you.” Tweak it to something like, “It’s so fun palling around with you. You’re one of my good friends!”

2.被对方的Wingperson

The best way to help a friend get over an infatuation is to help her get under someone new. Ask her about what her type is. Listen carefully to what she says. She may try and describe a guy exactly like you. If she does, just pretend that you don’t see the similarities.

If you are at a bar, party, or school, start suggesting guys who you think would be good for her, and then activelytry and help her out。如果她真的是你的朋友,你想让她快乐,所以帮她得到迷上了好处大家。

同样,请她帮你侦察自己感兴趣的人。没有得到跨越,你看不出她是不是比朋友问她在得到另一个女人的帮助更多的点。

一群朋友的照片

如果你想将她与其他人来说,这应该是很明显她说,你没有恋爱,她的兴趣。

For the sake of trying to help her understand, don’t describe or pick a woman who is similar to her. Otherwise, she may continue making her play for you, thinking you’ll come around.

If she’s a cheerleader, tell her you’d love to meet a goth/nerd. If she’s an engineer, tell her you’re looking for a sporty tomboy. “See that woman over there? I want to go talk to her. What do you think I should say?”

If she is a true friend, she will help you, albeit sadly. If she gets hissy and tries to sabotage it, you may have to rethink your friendship.

3. Don’t Be a Perfect Gentleman

We tend to idolize people we like sometimes. They can do no wrong in our eyes. So do wrong!

Think about the comments or conversations you have with your guy friends. You talk about sweaty balls, huge dumps, etc. Now, you would never have that conversation with someone you were interested in and trying to woo. By including her in those conversations, you are implicitly telling her that she’s一个哥们and not a potential mate.

是毛,发誓了很多,关于女人你约会的谈话。你想让她对你感到轻微的反感。

4. Don’t Accidentally Treat Her as You Would a Girlfriend

I’m a kind guy, and I like to be nice and help people. But there was one girl, Emily, who would take any simple or small nicety and inflate it and imagine I was coming around to wanting to date her.

We used to joke that I couldn’t say “bless you” to her without her taking it as a sign of interest. Don’t open doors for your friend who likes you, don’t buy her drinks if you’re not buying your dudes their drinks, and don’t spend a lot of time alone.

Wemen can be a little densesometimes, and while we think we’re just chillin’, she thinks how wonderful it is that you can trust her with all this personal info.

5. You’ll Want to Be Even More Gentle If You’ve Slept Together

这是一个非常棘手的局面。也许你有你涉足到时候你们都觉得无聊,角质,或饮用性领土谁的朋友。完全正常!但是你要确保你没有给她虚假的希望,她可以变成一个女朋友。

我曾经认识一个女人,泰瑞,对谁送我一个性邀请之前,我们亲自见过社交媒体。很显然,我下来,我只是坐在家里玩视频游戏。我们进入了一个朋友-与效益的关系,其结果不错我们俩,但我在跟她约会的原因是多方面的兴趣。

然而,她将带来高达每隔一段时间:“您为何从未带我约会?”呃,因为这不是我们的关系,你们是这样说!

So I would just always be busy if she wanted to do something other than… well, bang.

Photo of couple in bed

性生活可以更复杂的事情。

This can get complicated because many people think FWB is opening the door to a possible relationship. Or worse, it could have been entered into totally innocently, but then she catches feelings.

女性可以传统更加珍惜,所以它可能是她与另一个女人对你的看法非常困难。但她需要听到它,并与它确定。如果她试图唱衰其他女性或积极试图阻止你说话的其他女人,你可能需要重新考虑你们的关系。

因为我们都是人,他们有复杂的情绪,有没有办法知道她会处理好还是按耐不住。但是虚假的希望是非常邪恶的东西,只是拖动周围的人,因为他们不断地希望你会改变你的想法是不会顺利的人。

一个注释家伙,好了

不要试图把每一个见到的女人变成了女朋友区。我不断地从我的女性朋友和客户,听说他们已经相识并取得了巨大的新的男朋友。他们很高兴有别人结伴玩耍与和同情和大家分享。

Then they find out the guy was only going along with it to get into her good graces and date her. When she politely declines, he gets all pissy and upset, claiming he just got friend-zoned.

老兄,你把她in the girlfriend zone. She thought she’d made a friend, and now she’s upset and heartbroken that the guy she thought was her friend was, in actuality, not.

生命是疯狂的在那里,朋友们 - 让我们be kind to each other